“Why are you so upset about adult content bans? You don’t even post that stuff. can’t you just look at porn somewhere else?”
Well, you see, I have this small problem where my very existence is considered adult content by a small but very powerful group of people and I actually rather enjoy being able to exist in public without restriction so uhhhh put that in your bong and smoke it kiddo.
guanyu and yuki both being targets of media hate right now i wonder what the common factor is hmmmmmm. HMMMMMM
listen i know they made mistakes but i think some of y’all too eager foaming at the mouth calling for them to lose their seats. and i think we all know what the reason behind that is
Holy fucking shit queer people really fucking hate masculinity
Like, I know anyone following me has seen me talk about this shit but fuck
This queer movie review podcast is talking about 70s glam rock fashion (a favorite of mine) and the one host says “an effeminate man is his true self, because masculinity is fake, the only way to be real is to be feminine”
Like, what the fuck? First of all, way to discount generations of queer people, and displays of queer masculinity, great job. Second, tell me you’ve never spoken to a trans man or a butch or literally anyone who’s ever been forced into a feminine social role or feminine presentation without telling me.
I hate how pervasive this attitude is. I hate how it makes it uncomfortable, at best, to exist in queer spaces as someone who is not, can not, and does not want to be sufficiently feminine.
anytime ppl tell me masculinity is inherently restrictive and violent i think abt the fact that peak jewish masculinity is studying talmud and taking care of your family and giving your wife multiple orgasms.
“It’s become easier to imagine the end of the world than to imagine the end of capitalism,” and in much the same way, I think it’s become easier for a lot of people (including and in many cases especially men) to imagine the end of the male gender than to imagine positive forms of masculinity.
But we’re gonna fucking have to. There needs to be a positive vision of what masculinity can be so that men, once they do the work of abandoning the patriarchal, racist, supremacist and bigoted forms of masculinity that they are taught, have somewhere better to go, and someone better to be.
Like, yes, I know it’s tempting to be like “not my problem, fuck ‘em, let them figure it out.” And to some extent fair enough, this is work whose primary burden should fall on men and masculine people. But cis men don’t have a monopoly on masculinity. Spare a thought for transmasc people, spare a thought for nonbinary and genderfluid folks with masculine expression, or, hell, butch women who incorporate parts of masculinity into their womanhood. It’s their fucking gender too, y'know.
i mean they/we have figured it out. there’s tons of cool and fun alternatives to toxic masculinity. as was pointed up upthread, plenty of jewish men have this on lockdown, and there’s plenty of other cultures besides that we could all celebrate and learn from too. and then even queer-specific types of masculinity like leather daddies, bears, bulldykes, butches, transmascs of all stripes… are right now authentically celebrating their masculinity.
so the problem is really everyone else who needs to pay attention and behave themselves, in this situation.
like, to wring our hands, at this point in time, and say ‘oh we need to figure this out, we need to come up with a good masculinity, we need there to be a positive solution’ is letting everyone else off the hook for being the problem. because there’s already dozens of great ways to be a good man, and there are millions of good men, loving themselves and loving each other and loving everyone else around them too. that’s done. that’s solved. we did it.
now it’s the rest of the community’s turn to actually meet us where we’re at.
Here’s the thing: if you don’t provide an alternative, positive form of masculinity then kids trying to learn what it means to “be a man” will have no one to teach them aside from MRAs.
Acting like all men are the same as Andrew Tate is just “boys will be boys” and saying it in a derogatory way doesn’t change the fact you’re excusing their behavior instead of pushing them to be better.
So please stop erasing queer masculinity. Stop erasing positive masculinity. Stop pushing proto-TERF bio-essentialist shit about “the penis is evil.”
